I am very sorry that you feel like being submissive doesnt work for you. Unfortunately it doesn not for some people, altho for the majority i believe it does. It is amazing what happens when both husband and wife give 100% of themselves to each other. Neither one even notices how much they are sacrificing bc to them they love their spouse so much they WANT to do it. And i dont just want blog hits. I really want to share with other people what works for me. And yes, being submissive to my husband is definitely working for me. I couldnt be happier with where my marriage is right now and we have a beautiful 4 mo old girl. I love my husband so much i will literally do anything he wants as long as it does not go against what i stand for. And he believes the same as i do and loves me so much he would never ask anything of me that i wouldnt be willing/able to do. Its an amazing relationship and i want other couples to be able to experience what we have. Some people do not know how to achieve that. So i started a blog to help people. If i only have 5the friends read it every week then those 5 are being helped. If 1 or 2 others stumble across it then i hope they find something that applies to them. I only suggested it in the first place bc i had just written on how to fight for your marriage. And i wanted my original comment to be kept short so i put that link in there and pray that it will help somebody.
Oh hey in case i dont make it over to my blog, at least check out "The no cry sleep solution" by elizabeth pantley. It will help with your baby sleeping so you're not as tired. Ot was a lifesaver for me