08-12-2013 10:10 PM
My husband and I have been ttc for about 10 months now with no luck. For some back ground info on the situation....I have2 children from a previous relationship. I found out with my first pregnancy that I only have half of a uterus. The left side of my uterus never developed while i was developing. My husband has no children of his own. After my youngest son was born I had the mirena iud put in bc I was now a single mom of 2 boys and wasn't looking to get pregnant anytime soon. I then met my husband 8 months later and we were married a year later. In October of last year we decided that we wanted to start ttc so i had my iud removed and started tracking my cycles. After a few months of nothing happening my husband went and got tested and we found out that he had something called varicoucell veins in his left testical causing blood to pool up ontop of the testical ultimatly killing the sperm. Well he had surgery to correct it and the post op check ups have said that everything is fine now.....but still no pregnancy. Now his dr wants to go back and do more sperm counts. I know that we both have our own issues to overcome but we are both starting to get rather down. I'm still tracking my cycles and we are doing everything that we can....but it just seems to me like that every time i turn around one of my friends is getting pregnant now. I'm just starting to feel alone and that no one understands what I'm feeling or going through. I just don't know what else to do. Does anyone have any advice?
08-14-2013 03:29 PM
I'm so sorry that it's not as easy as you had hoped it would be. I had fertility issues as well and it took three years to get pregnant, when I finally got pregnant it led to several miscarriages. I'm not saying this for sympathy, I'm saying this to remind you that we all have struggles at times. We can't give up hope and we can't lose sight of what's important. I went on to have three healthy children.
Although you and hubby may be getting a little down, there is still hope and you still have so much to be grateful for. Try to take a more relaxed approach to baby making. Try to have fun with your husband and forget that you are trying to make a baby. Sometimes things happen when you least expect it....like meeting your husband
Stick around here. I know that there are others who have felt like you do.
08-14-2013 05:39 PM
Tammy is so correct!! The best things come unexpectedly..from husbands to babies!!
Just relax and try not to think of the issues and keep your head up. Alot of women i know gave up and then found they were expecting shortly after. Sometimes the stress and feeling like its "your fault" is really hampering you..so relax and have fun Best of luck!!
09-12-2013 10:45 AM
09-12-2013 10:52 AM
Hang in there! Just remember there is a greater plan than you can control. My husband and I were told that we wouldn't be able to get pregnant without fertility treatment. So, we just decided if we did, great, otherwise, we'd wait until we were both finished with grad school to pursue fertility treatments. I ended up getting pregnant 2 years later while he was working on his PhD and I was a few weeks from having my masters. No fertility treatments needed and I was done with my degree in time to focus on our now 18 month old daughter. It will happen when the timing is right. Just remember God has His plan and sometimes we just have to be patient.
09-12-2013 10:53 AM
09-12-2013 10:59 AM
mo2ttc- Try to hang in there. TTC for some of us can be amazingly tough for what seems to be simple for what feels like everyone else. My husband and I are going on 4 years of TTC and haven't really gotten many answers through all of our fertiltiy treatments. I was PG once and MC'd which was very unexpected and difficult. You should join us on the monthly board. There are some great women and it's really nice to have a sounding board or to vent. Best of luck to you on #3!
09-12-2013 11:04 AM
09-12-2013 11:05 AM
09-12-2013 11:05 AM
I just read your post - I hope you've gotten pregnant! I know how hard it is. I was just saying to my husband that I feel like everyone is posting to Facebook that they got pregnant, and it makes me resent my friends because we are struggling to get pregnant a second time. I have a 2-year old son who was conceived with Clomid and Metformin (I have PCOS). After starting the medications, I got pregnant the second month. I also had a Mirena IUD right after he was born and had it removed in May of this year. We have been TTC every month since then - actively trying (charting, ovulation tests, Clomid at muliplie doses, metformin), and last cycle I even had 3 transvaginal ultrasounds to track my ovulation progress. I'm so frustrated. I feel like if it doesn't happen by the end of the year then maybe it wasn't meant to be, and I should just be happy with the wonderful son that I have. Every one of my cycles is different. I never seem to ovulate at a normal or regular time, and that makes TTC like trying to hit a moving target. I feel your pain. Hopefully you and I will be posting soon to Facebook that we are pregnant!