09-12-2013 11:05 AM
09-12-2013 11:34 AM
I understand how you feel. It took six years for me to have another child. Between me and my husband we have four kids. Two boys and two girls. I had a problem with miscarriages. It was a year with four miscarriages before I got pregnant with our (now) 15 month old. I misscarried at the start of August two years ago and by the end of the month I was pregnant. I know that it might seem like ttc is a chore. What my husband and I did was take a break for a few months and during that time I got pregnant but miscarried. If you and your husband can maybe taking a weekend get away when you know that you are ovulating. And maybe it won't feel like it is a chore. Just relax and don't stress about it. Now that we have a 15 month old I would like to have another child but for some reason it is harder for me. But I won't give up. Best of luck to you and your husband.
09-12-2013 12:12 PM
First I would like to start with the fact that you are NOT alone in the world on this issue! My husband and I struggled with fertility issues of our own for 2-1/2 years. I know EXACTLY how you are feeling! I felt depressed my self, and everytime another friend or someone I knew was pregnant I cried. To help myself, I even deactivated my facebook account, which did help to eliminate some of my stress. (Try it, it will help) I started to focus on me and my husband and enriching our life and relationship. You may want to consider stopping tracking your cycles and only keep track of the days you start and end your periods as well as the days you have sex, in case you do get pregnant you will have a better idea of a conception date. For myself, I gave up the tracking ovulation, tracking sex, everything. For me, I got pregnant twice with the help of fertility drugs because I was told I don't ovulate on my own, and I miscarried with both pregnancies. After my D&C with the second pregnancy my OB/GYN wanted to do a HSG (Hysterosalpingogram), and I guess that must have cleared out my tubes because I ovulate on my own now.
There is hope out there for everyone! Don't give up on your dream! You are not alone, don't ever think that way! Put some extra love and energy into your kids and your hubby and leave the miracle in God's hands. Good Luck!!
09-12-2013 01:13 PM
09-12-2013 02:28 PM
I feel your pain. I had 13 YEARS of secondary infertility. After I had my oldest daughter, I went on the pill for a couple of years until we were ready to start trying again. Years and years went by, I spoke to my the Nurse Practioner at my OB/GYN a few times and she just kind of blew me off. So years more went by, I got divorced (not because of that), another year or so went by and got remarried. We went several years married before we decided to try to get pregnant. I had one short pregnancy that broke my heart. After of over a year trying after that, I was FINALLY sent to a fertility specialist and found out that I have endometriosis. Had surgery to have that removed and finally...FINALLY had #2. Petrified the whole pregnancy...afterall, I was 37 and not in my prime by this time.
I guess the short story is don't give up until they run out of answers. I know your pain and I feel for you. <3
09-30-2013 01:53 PM