12-04-2013 06:27 PM
12-07-2013 05:38 PM
I hope everything ended well for you. I had an experiance like this last yr. You just stay positive (which is hard) through the next few weeks. Theres nothing to do but wait. Hopefully next week that heart beat will be loud and strong. (my doctor brought me back in for follow ups the weekly to determin what was happening. I think that is common)
12-09-2013 09:10 PM
Unfortunately the appoitnment on Friday only confirmed that sometime last week the baby's heart stopped functioning and that there is no hope for this pregnancy. This was/is the worst nightmare that I have ever had especailly since I have no signs of having a miscarriage yet and it is going on a week since my first ultrasound. To top things off I found out that I am most likely going to have to pay for the second ultrasound because of it being so close to the first one. I am beside myself and have cried so much that I cannot cry anymore, I have not been getting much sleep at all because this is the last thing i expected to hear. The doctor told usthat if by chance the baby did make it to full term there most likely would have been some kind of disability involved or that my health would have been jeapordized in some way and that I did nothing wrong to cause this. I know he ws just trying to comfort me/us but it did not really help. I have a follow up appointment on Tuesday to find out what course of action the doctor wants to take and go from there. On a brighter note the doctor said we know you can get pregnant and obviously you are fertile so you can try again. My mom said that the fact that I was on birth control for about 10 years might have played a role in what is going on but who knows... Just one of those things I guess.
12-09-2013 09:53 PM
12-17-2013 10:54 PM
12-18-2013 05:33 AM
I am so sorry that you had to go through this. I had a miscarriage in April when I was about 8 weeks along. It is the hardest thing I've ever dealt with (which is saying something). I couldn't look at babies, toddlers, or the nursery my fiance and I had set up- we were very excited and stupid- for weeks. I can't say that time will take away the pain, my baby would have been born December 6, and I cried all that day. What did help was finding out that so many of the women I knew had miscarriages (one had two miscarriages and she has seven children). It really is nothing that you did and when the time is right, I am sure you will be blessed with a beautiful, healthy baby.
Also I am now 12 weeks along and this child seems very healthy. It's incredibly scary being pregnant after a loss, but it also makes me happier than anything else.
12-19-2013 06:31 AM - edited 12-19-2013 06:38 AM
Unfprtunately the ultrasound that I had donw two days after I was told the the baby did not have a heartbeat only confirmed that there is no hope for this pregnancy as well as the blood work that was dont to test my hormone levels. We were so excited about this pregnancy as this was my first pregnancy and then completely devastated and kind of in denial when we went back in to see the doctor. The doctor wanted to wait another week to see if my body would miscarry naturally but after a week and a half of nothing happening I could not wait any longer and need a D&C done so that we could have closure and start the grieving process and then start to move on. I found out from my 14 y/o step daughter that dad (my boyfriend) has already been talking to my mom to see what months she doesnt have grandchildren in so he knows when we can start trying again... So I am keeping my fingers crossed and praying that the next time around everything goes smoothly and by this time next year that we will have a healthy baby. Thank you for all the well wishes, hugs and support this has been a trying time and the holiday season isn't making it any easier. I hope that everyone has a Merry Christmas and a very Happy New Year!!