10-30-2013 04:59 PM
Hey everyone! I'm new here-- my baby will be here around the middle of May.I have heard a lot of pros and cons to kids being involved with sports. Has anyone had any direct experiences? Even opinions would be helpful as to if you are for it or against it and why. My sister and I were discussing this and I wanted to get some outside thoughts on it. Thanks in advance for your contributions.
10-31-2013 08:18 AM
10-31-2013 08:23 AM
I have a few years to go before this will directly affect me as well, but I have seen alot of debates on the scoring of these events. I think that as long as the kids are willing to participate and want to be part of a team it could be great for them. Especially since I will be homeschooling. The huge controversy is in the scoring. I'm tempted to believe that if we give everyone an award for showing up, prehaps when they are older they will expect something for minimal effort. Your boss doesn't give you a raise or promotion based upon attendance in most work places, could we be sending the wrong message at this age?
11-04-2013 06:42 PM
I am a Sports Mom. Both of my boys ages 9 and 10 have been in sports since they were 4 years old. Their main sports are baseball and football but they have an interest in soccer and basketball as well. We just don't have the time to do them ALL I was an athlete in high school and college. I am so glad I was involved in team sports as a youth. It taught me responsibility, dedication, team work, how to relate/work with people different than me in high stress (as high stress as youth can get lol) situations, pride in team and the list goes on. My boys love sports. They don't always love the team they end up on because as 9 and 10 year olds they aren't playing for their school yet. They are consistently on one select baseball team that is a GREAT experience for them. However, they also play on other teams they get drafted for instead of trying out for and those can be tough. We have encountered coaches with anger issues that I do not agree with, my boys have heard bad language unfortunately from kiddos I wouldn't otherwise necessarily want them around. There are definitely pros and cons but in my opinion as a former athlete and the Mom of two young athletes, the pros by far outway the cons. We also do not ever force our boys to play anything. It is always their choice. However, once they do commit to being on a team we expect them to finish that season. We do not promote quitting (unless there were an extenuating circumstance).
I hope this helps.
11-04-2013 06:49 PM
Regarding the scoring/trophies...this is my experience and opinion...When my boys were younger, they always kept score at their games and they always got a trophy from their coach at the end of a season for a season completed. Win or lose, they got that trophy at the end of the season. However, that stopped at about age 8. Now, there is no trophy unless we play a tournament and place 1st or 2nd that weekend. This was hard for them at first because they were used to getting a trophy at the end of a season no matter what. However, they got used to it and it taught them that they have to work hard to earn that coveted trophy. When they do earn it from all of their hard work, they don't forget how they got it. Or when they win a game, the reward is the win...not a material object. It's the satisfaction in knowing their hard work paid off. I'm rambling but I think in the beginning, it was somewhat good for them to be rewarded for just "showing up" but now as they get older, it has changed and I'm good with that. Does that make any sense? Oh and the scoring...we always kept score at my kids games. It helped them learn the rules to know the score.
11-06-2013 08:01 PM
I want to first thank everyone for their contributions. This seems to be such a hot issue and I really lean more towards what Christine said: if there's a reward they are reminded of how they got to that point.
11-09-2013 11:11 AM
11-09-2013 12:08 PM
Sports teach valuable lessons about teamwork, helping others, practicing a skill to improve, being a graceful winner and loser. Your kids will not always be the best in school, they will not always get the job they really want, sometimes they will have to cheer on a friend who is doing better at something than they are. Sports as young children allow them and assist you in teaching them to be good sports, to work hard, and to understand that winning is awesome but it is not everything. Yes there is a chance they will get hurt, that is a reality in every aspect of the world we live in. Do we really want this generation of children to grow up scared of adventure and activity because they might get hurt? Or scared to dream of becoming a doctor because they might not make it? So more simply put I am a fan of kids in sports (if they want to be).
11-19-2013 12:58 PM
My kids are 12, 11, 9 & 4. We started the older 3 in soccer at 3 and they all started t-ball at 4. My oldest 2 (girls), started cheerleading and dance at 5 (dance actually started in nursery school before that, but I don't really count that). The girls have also tried gymnastics, which the 11 yr old just started up again. Soccer stopped at 7 for my oldest (conflicted with cheering for football) and shortly afterwards for the other 2. My 9 yr old started karate at 6. And my 4 yr old just finished his 1st year of flag football & took tumbling at our local Y. I can't say that we have been accident free, but our major accidents have not come from sports. 2 years ago my then 7 yr old broke his arm badly enough to need surgery, jumping off a slide at the playground. And my 4 yr old just got stiches over the summer after tripping over his feet at the grocery store. Although my oldest does come home from cheerleading with plenty of bruises (when flyers & bases are learning, someone's bound to get kicked or elbowed)! They chose the activities they want to do & once they commit, they're in it for the season. For the most part we have had coaches who are great & really take the time to teach the kids. But we have also had some who play favorites a little too much (and I'm not talking about more talented kids, necessarily). And some who are focused too much on the win & not enough on the process. But, overall I think that sports are a great experience for kids. And I'm of the opinion that it's better to try them out young & see if you like it while it's more about the teaching & the fun than the winning. And the social interaction is great for the little ones too!