08-19-2013 10:26 AM
I don't have any advice because we have a few more years before our first enters high school but I'm interested to read the responses you get from others
08-19-2013 12:11 PM
Oh boy! I'm not there yet but I feel your anxiety. The only thing I can say is be there to love her every day. For me, high school was painful, I hated it and I remember feeling the same way towards my mom. I don't like to admit it, but that is the truth.
I think about what I would do different for my own daughter and I would make sure she knows that her home is where she can softly land after a rough day at school. I would remind her that she is beautiful every day and that if her friends can't see that then they are not true friends.
High school years are delicate ones. Be open to listening and not judging.
I have a feeling both you and your daughter will do just fine
08-19-2013 03:43 PM
08-21-2013 11:51 AM
I totally understand what you are saying! I remeber a friend getting a phone in her room and what a big deal it was. That was in 10th grade
Social media is a tough one. My feeling is that if it can't be monitored by you, then it shouldn't be an option. I think of safety issues. Can a phone (used responsibly) help keep my child safe=yes. Can facebook help keep my child safe=no. Thats just my opinion.
I used to be 100% against my children having cell phones. I'm still not ready for them to have one, I think they are too young at 3,7 and 9. I do think it's important for them to know how to use one though. I talked with my mom about this issue because she is a teacher and she sees it all. She said that these times are so different than when you and I were kids. A phone could save a life or help when someone is in trouble so she thinks at middle school ages kids should have a cell phone with limited functions.
The way I see it is that I can't mess my child up any more than my mom messed me up
09-30-2013 09:06 AM
Whether your child is moving to middle school or high school the first few weeks are going to be filled with excitement as well as anxiety. Being a parent it’s your responsibility to make effort as a team and keep a positive focus. Encourage your teenager to participate in one or two activities to which she is interested.