12-08-2013 02:31 PM
Jennifer, I totally understand what you're saying. One way of looking at it, is that you're not taking away anything from your ds as a child. He will still be a kid, doing all of this normal stuff. Most 10 year olds are actually not interested in sex or even developmentally sexual. Girls still have cooties in many cases. It's about education ( although not teaching through fear). As parents we won't over-' sexualize' our children by giving correct educational information. Studies show that, by raising children with the correct information, answering their questions when asked ( instead of changing the subject), creating an environement to where the child feels he/she can talk and providing age appropriate information actually delays a child's first time experiance. What a parent is really doing is educating their child about their body and procreatiion. If a parent can take a more academic view of this whole process, it makes it so much easier. Imagine if a child had a human anatomy teacher as a parent. Or a child had a parent who was a dr. that specialized in std's. Or a child who's parent was a fertility/reproduction specialist. I would think these conversations would naturally come up in the home. I would think some of these people would enjoy sharing information/edcuation with their children. There is nothing sexual about education. That's how I really look at it all. Education takes a lot of the being curious and needing to look elsewhere ( which many times ends up being inappropriate) for information. I do believe teaching kids about sex and their bodies, before hititng puberty and all the natrual hormones that kick in, is best. Teens are very different when all their hormones kick. These conversations take on a whole new face and meaning compared to when a child has been educated in the younger years. You also get very different questions from a 10 year old compared to a 14 or 15 year old. 2 very different worlds. The older they are the less they want to talk as well, no matter how educational you try to be. They are easily embarrassed compared to when younger and sex really does have a whole new meaning, and their bodies biologically know it and feel it at that older age. Bottom line is the more educated a child is, the more confident he becomes, the longer he will wait ( typically), the less likey they are to enage in risky behavior and the less likely they are to a pregnant teen. Of course having a loving, involved supporitve and close family plays a big wonderful role as well. =)
12-13-2013 03:16 PM
I think such stories are quiet important for kids as they help in developing imagination power of kids. They do have a profound effect on the child psychology as well. The very sense of love of kid towards pets and little animals starts developing ones you engage them with such stories. They start developing feeling of love and care to such cute animals. So i would say instead pf avoiding it, go for it.
01-28-2014 08:09 AM
01-28-2014 08:22 AM
If a child is old enough to ask a question, (s)he is old enough for an answer.The answer doesn't have to be in detail or elaborate; just give the briefest response and if that isn't enough to satisfy the child (s)he will ask another question. The next question will give you a clue as to how much more to include in your next answer. Keep on answering as long as the questions continue. You will find, in fact, that if you DO make your first response long and involved, the child will generally become impatient and shut you down.
That said, my parents waited far too long for any talk. When my brother was 9, back in the early '50s, he was called into the principal's office for "making dirty signs." We were raised in a cocoon and had NO idea there were such things as the "middle finger salute," etc. and his innocent gesture (while picking his nose LOL) got him into hot water because our parents kept us ignorant. There are MANY aspects to "the talk" and some of those discussions should take place as soon as your child enters the schools system.
01-28-2014 11:46 AM
02-06-2014 12:13 PM
Now's the time. My 9 year-old daughter seemed resistent to my attempts to talk to her, but I insisted we have the talk. After we fininshed, I asked her if she had any questions. She said, "Mom, I already know about this stuff!" I asked her how she found out. She said she called ASK A NURSE!