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missbrittany1023
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new stay at home mommy needs advice from the pros

I'm a newly stay at home mom. I have a 3yr old little boy and a little princess on The way due Halloween. Also I'm a step mom to a 4yr old an a 6yr old. My main concern is having time to get all the house work done and cooking on top of juggling kids school homework and a newborn. I was just wondering if any stay at home moms have any advice or tips they can give me?? I'm new to all this. I was a single mom for so long and only had one kid now it's a big difference
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ModChristine
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Re: new stay at home mommy needs advice from the pros

Hi!  I've been a sahm working from home for 9 years now.  I have a 9 year old boy, 5 year old girl and now 9 year old stepson :smileyhappy:

 

My trick for getting housework done is coming up with activites to keep them busy in spurts.  I admit, it was much harder when they were younger but now the boys pretty much entertain themself.  The 5 year old...not so much!  If it's a nice day out, I'll take her outside for a while to wear her out a bit then when we come in, she plays with her toys, reads books, etc. while I do chores. Or I will get her going on a craft in the kitchen while I'm doing dishes.  I do alot during her naptime.  She's special needs in many ways so she still naps everyday.  I love nap time lol.  You can try to find ways to include them in your chores and make it fun.  A chore/reward chart will help with that.  Crafts are fun, outdoor stuff like a baby pool with toys in it can be fun.  I'm drawing a blank on what all we do but I'll keep thinking on it. :smileyhappy:

~ Christine ~
Mom to a sweet little girl and 2 busy boys
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Re: new stay at home mommy needs advice from the pros

Great ideas from Christine but I have to add that it just won't happen some days:smileyhappy:

 

I used to be as uptight as anyone could be when it came to having the laundry done, the beds made, the kitchen clean, you name it, it had to be clean and organized and tidy!

 

That all worked out really well while I had two kids. I even had dinner ready most nights. Fast forward to kid number three and something just had to give!

 

My kids are now 3, 7 and 9 and I am back on top of my game after a few years of givcing in to the madness.

 

I'm not saying that you have to throw in the towel, I'm just saying that you can only do what you can do :smileyhappy:

You will be fine and learn what works for you and your family.

 

I'm not into child labor, but let me tell you this......my 9 year old folds laundry and puts it away. I don't pay her, but she knows that when the house is clean, we can go do fun stuff. I don't mess around, if the house is clean, I get everyone out of it so it stays that way :smileyhappy:

 

Congratulations on your growing family and your new job of being a stay at home mom :smileyhappy:

 

Tammy

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Re: new stay at home mommy needs advice from the pros

Christine,

 

I miss nap time :smileyhappy:

 

Tammy

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I know...nap time rocks lol :smileywink:
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Re: new stay at home mommy needs advice from the pros

Oh yeah I'm not saying my house chores get done everyday. Being present and involved with the kiddos is much more important than housework :smileyhappy:
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Re: new stay at home mommy needs advice from the pros

I know...nap time rocks lol :smileywink:

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Re: new stay at home mommy needs advice from the pros

Hi missbrittany,

 

Wondering how all those household chores are going:smileyhappy: I am giggling as I sit here and look around at what needs to be done and all my daughter wants to do is be held.

 

Hope you are adjusting to being supermom!

 

Tammy

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Re: new stay at home mommy needs advice from the pros

I been a SAHM since my daughter was born..shes 4...shes my only right now,but heres a few things i learned while being at home with her...

 

MEAL PLAN...if your worried about cooking meals while juggling kids...meal plan! after they are all in bed..sit down,get a piece of paper and bust out cook books or your computer and meal plan...i normally do 2 weeks at a time..sometimes if im feeling crazy or on a roll i do a whole MONTH at a time :smileytongue:...but doing 1 week at a time is good too! to make it easier,find meals that you can use the same ingrediants! you'll buy less(which means less errands with kids) and you can even use some of the left overs for other meals...sometimes on monday i will crockpot a whole chicken..then we'll have various chicken recipes for the rest of the week :smileyhappy: since i meal plan im able to see what we ate the week before so we dont repeat...nothing i hate more then eating the same thing in a month..lol..im the picky one in the fam lol

 

CLEANING by room by hour or day...dont try to keep the whole place clean every day..its not possible!..but it doesnt mean to not clean either lol...now that my daughter is in preK(only for 3 hours) it gives me alittle more time to throw a few loads of laundry in and clean up a few of our rooms (living/dining/kitchen,etc)

but before she went to preK she would play in her room while i would clean a room(living/dining/kitchen/bathroom..whatever needed it the most)..i told her she needed to play in her room for a hour or so while i cleaned...she got used to this rutine on a daily bases so it got easier to clean the house with her in it.....if things get real crazy and she wont stay in her room i bust out my old Iphone..which i loaded with apps and games for her..lol..its my "emergancy" back up..lol

 

either which..take it day by day and see what works for you and your new growing family...its all different for everyone:smileyhappy:

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Involve them whenever possible! It will be frustrating as everything you do will take you 10x longer, and will take time, but once they get the hang of it, your chores will become fun for them! My 16 month old helps me clean every day.

 

Squirt bottles (with water in them) and unused sponges are great while you're dusting, or cleaning the counters.

Let them try out the vacuum, and push around the mop and broom. I used to vacuum with my newborn sleeping soundly in a baby backpack! Those were his best naps!

Tidy up the bathroom while they're busy in the tub.

Have them help with laundry. My lil guy thinks it's funny to heave the clothes out of the dryer. Little does he know it's a huge help because he can reach in there a lot easier than I can, being 8 months pregnant!!

Make a game out of picking up toys. They'd much rather think they're shooting hoops, or running a relay race than doing work! Pretend to put their stuff away while they're watching, but put it out of reach. When they give you a hard time about hiding all their toys on the fridge, or in the top cabinets have them "show you" where it all goes.  It just takes a little encouragement from there for them to start doing it themselves so that Mom doesn't hide stuff!

If they can't help you cook, and won't stay out of the way, save tv or other attention grabbers for that time.

Pretty much the only thing I can't do with a toddler running around is load the dishwasher because he climbs in it and throws everything right back out! I do that while he's eating (strapped in his booster).

If you still have nap time in your house, take full advantage of it before the baby is born! You'll find chores that you just can't get done with the kids around, so do it then.
Most importantly...... cut yourself some slack!!!!!!!! With 3 children +1 on the way, your house will not always be spotless! It's not possible, and it's ok!

One more tip: Do not reward them for doing chores!! If you give them candy, or allowance it will teach them that they don't "have to" do anything without compensation. Dangerous consequences in the long run!! Usually making you happy, and a big pat on the back are enough for kids that young!!

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